05-30-2022, 10:40 PM
(05-30-2022, 06:10 PM)NilesMike Wrote: I don't think there is anything that can be done except on an individual basis. Large scale? Forget about it.
Not sure where the root of it is but try being a teacher these days. Kid gets in trouble, parent backs the kid and teacher gets a boatload of administrative grief. When I was a kid, if a teacher caught me doing something bad, my problems didn't even begin until I got home. My parents never hit me, my Dad never even yelled at me. One time though he looked at me so disappointed, that was all it took, no words were needed.
Kids now fear nothing. Not their teacher, parents, neighbors or police. This is where we are, with a bunch of lazy parents who want a village to raise their kids.
when my niece was fairly young, about 11 or 12 she was angry about something and picked up a rock that my wife had on the table, she made a motion like she was going to throw it through our glass backdoor. i was like whoa, what going on there? she says i'm so angry i'm going to throw this rock through your door!! i said, you throw that effin' rock through my glass door i'm going to hit you so effin' hard your parents are going to feel it for weeks! and i was fairly loud and serious--she put the rock down and apologized.
years ago, her mother when she was married to my brother--i don't know what happened but she laid back and full cold cocked my brother right in the face--i was stunned and stepped back--i let them alone. later that day we were going to doylestown, pa for some reason, on the way back she was sitting in the passenger seat, my brother in the backseat, and i just couldn't help myself, i said hey "insert name" why'd you hit my brother like that?? she looked at me and said he looked at me funny....i said, oh yea, i'm looking at ya funny right now you wanna hit me?? she just looked...i said you wanna hit? the eff you do, cause woman or no you hit me i'm laying you the eff out right hear right now, you ever raise your hands again to my brother and i'll smack you...you understand?? she never laid her hands on my brother again. she knew i was serious as a heart attack.
now we go over to my sister, her and bf got into an argument, he pushed her out of a car--i got word to him don't come around no more, cause you're going to have some real problems--they're no longer together maybe 10 to 12 years now--they were talking recently, just the other week--he tells her you know your brother, i'm still scared of him, he scared me then and i'm still afraid of him now.
growing up if i did something wrong there were consequences, and sometimes those consequences were brutal
sometimes it helps to understand if you do something wrong there will be a reaction, call it fear, call it respect, call it knowing right from wrong or the very least learning right from wrong.